Idiots Guide chapter 1.5: suprise visits
Something very important I forgot to mention last time- Surprise visits.
These are one of the most amazing ways of showing a girl how much you want to be with her. You are very literally saying "I could not bear to be away from you for one more second."
To make these work you do need to take some things into consideration. First and foremost you need to consider her schedule. Cuz as sweet and romantic as surprise visits are, it'll backfire majorly if she already had plans and is too busy to hang out with you. All you need to do though is ask her for her plans for the day in advance though. Do it casually, in conversation, "so what are you doing tomm?"
When you get there, right before you get to her, call her, make some small talk, casually ask "so where are you right now?" Probably after she tells you, she'll ask you where YOU are. Say something like, outdoors, or walking up the stairs, without giving an actual location, and then when she gets confused that's when you knock on the door.
Know where you are going! If you need to call her to get directions that will ruin the surprise.
How often should you surprise her? The answer to that is very dependent on both of your situations. The best time is a time you know she really need you right now, if she's sick in bed and no ones taking care of her, if she's lonely, homesick, stressed about school or work, or family, or if you haven't seen her in a while and are both very busy so probably won't see each other for a while, take one day or even just a morning or an afternoon off of whatever you were supposed to be doing and spend it with her. It will show her how important she is to you and how much you want to spend time with her. Also consideration are distance and how often you see each other. If you see each other only on weekends, you only need to surprise her in middle of the week once every few months. If you live really far and only see each other every few months, or a few times a year, just do one extra visit a year. Enough that she appreciates your thoughtfulness but not enough that she gets used to is and expects it cuz then its no longer a surprise.
Though surprise visits are most romantic for long distance relationships, even if you see her every day and live next door to her,you can still do it, but then its more cutesy than incredibly thoughtful. Pick a time she didn't think she would see you, and show up with flowers. She'll love it. In these cases it can be helpful and cute to make her think she won't see you, so that she'll really appreciate the element of surprise. Tell her you have won't be able to hang out, you have a super busy day, then show up at her door. (Just double check right before that she didn't make other plans...)
One Warning- Most girls do appreciate surprises if timed right but there are some girls who need their lives very planned and organized and surprises throw off their whole week and make them very stressed out. If your girlfriend fits that type, DO NOT surprise her!!!!
These are one of the most amazing ways of showing a girl how much you want to be with her. You are very literally saying "I could not bear to be away from you for one more second."
To make these work you do need to take some things into consideration. First and foremost you need to consider her schedule. Cuz as sweet and romantic as surprise visits are, it'll backfire majorly if she already had plans and is too busy to hang out with you. All you need to do though is ask her for her plans for the day in advance though. Do it casually, in conversation, "so what are you doing tomm?"
When you get there, right before you get to her, call her, make some small talk, casually ask "so where are you right now?" Probably after she tells you, she'll ask you where YOU are. Say something like, outdoors, or walking up the stairs, without giving an actual location, and then when she gets confused that's when you knock on the door.
Know where you are going! If you need to call her to get directions that will ruin the surprise.
How often should you surprise her? The answer to that is very dependent on both of your situations. The best time is a time you know she really need you right now, if she's sick in bed and no ones taking care of her, if she's lonely, homesick, stressed about school or work, or family, or if you haven't seen her in a while and are both very busy so probably won't see each other for a while, take one day or even just a morning or an afternoon off of whatever you were supposed to be doing and spend it with her. It will show her how important she is to you and how much you want to spend time with her. Also consideration are distance and how often you see each other. If you see each other only on weekends, you only need to surprise her in middle of the week once every few months. If you live really far and only see each other every few months, or a few times a year, just do one extra visit a year. Enough that she appreciates your thoughtfulness but not enough that she gets used to is and expects it cuz then its no longer a surprise.
Though surprise visits are most romantic for long distance relationships, even if you see her every day and live next door to her,you can still do it, but then its more cutesy than incredibly thoughtful. Pick a time she didn't think she would see you, and show up with flowers. She'll love it. In these cases it can be helpful and cute to make her think she won't see you, so that she'll really appreciate the element of surprise. Tell her you have won't be able to hang out, you have a super busy day, then show up at her door. (Just double check right before that she didn't make other plans...)
One Warning- Most girls do appreciate surprises if timed right but there are some girls who need their lives very planned and organized and surprises throw off their whole week and make them very stressed out. If your girlfriend fits that type, DO NOT surprise her!!!!
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